We all know we should do it. We have heard the stories of disappointment
and despair from families whose loved one didn’t do it. When asked,
we whole heartedly express the love and concern for our families necessary
to motivate us. So why then, is it so hard for us to take that first step
towards putting our estate plans and our families’ security blanket
in place? Well, because there is always tomorrow – until there isn’t.
Some people have confessed it feels like a jinx, a tempting of fate to
start their estate planning process. It feels to them like now that things
are in order; fate will decide it is ok for them to die. Others confess
that the whole idea of dividing their assets and belonging among family
members is just too overwhelming. Who should get what? Will there be lingering
disappointment or resentment if the “wrong” choice is made?
Also, several people, understandably, are uncomfortable at the thought
of talking about and planning for their own death.
Death is an inevitable part of life. As with other choices in life, we
can choose to prepare for it and exit this world as gracefully and responsibly
as possible or we can completely ignore it and let someone else deal with
the consequences of our inaction. Remember, we will be dead; therefore,
we won’t experience the peace or the pain of our decisions. The
peace or pain will be felt by our families, the ones left living.
When faced with the difficulty of taking the first step in our estate planning
process, we all need to ask ourselves, when tomorrow finally arrives (and
it always does), do I want my family left with the security of a roadmap
or stranded at the crossroads?